As a result, the question has been asked: Should you be dating a widower as a divorcee, and visa-versa?For one member who has recently come out of a relationship (we’ll call him “Howard” since he did not want his name to be shared), said that it’s not something that he would be willing to do again.
Lynn said, “There will be obstacles to overcome in any relationship and ours is no different. But, I am able to think of that as my past, as Chapter 1 in my book of life. She went on hundreds of dates, never able to commit to someone and never feeling better. She said, “It wasn’t until Stitch that I realized that what was missing from my life wasn’t a man. Having these women in my life has magically brought me back to my youth.
I have re-discovered what I loved most about being a girl and hanging out with my friends …
He said, “I’ll never date a widow again.” That’s just one story. It’s been a long time since I felt this way.”Another Stitch member, “Deborah,” who is both a divorcee and widow, shared with us that she has felt a gaping hole in her life for decades.
For another couple who met on Stitch (she a divorcee named “Lynn” and he a widower named “Paul”) the question of whether they would be compatible because of their different losses never came up. Maybe we cry for different reasons, but having a shoulder to cry on, someone I love, it doesn’t matter about how we got there, just that we found each other now.”Paul said, “Of course I miss my wife and yes she was my soul mate. She and I have built a new life together and every day I’m grateful to Stitch for leading me to her. Such a mix of different trauma and pain led her to feel that the only way to feel right again was to find another husband.
only without the angst and self-esteem issues that haunted me then. I’ve reconnected with JOY and discovered Peace of Mind. ” Her advice is to forget about dating and focus on finding true friends.
Use Stitch to meet different people with different backgrounds.He said it was even more painful than his divorce, realizing that Terry would never truly be his.Heartbroken, Howard had to walk away and is now only dating fellow divorcees.Other WAY members feel ready to move on quite quickly – and are open to the possibility of finding love and a new partner. And only you will know when or if you feel ready to move on. Dating after you've been widowed can be fraught with perils, particularly in the early months of bereavement, when you may still be feeling very emotionally raw.You may not have been out on a first date for many years.One WAY member who recently remarried after nine years on her own said that falling in love again has actually made her miss her late husband even more than she did before: “Life is undoubtedly happier, less lonely, richer and more exciting,” she says.