power over teenagers and females adds extra force to the power differential in this kind of arrangement.
Dating old guys
My third preface is that this article is, by design, focused on the younger woman/older man dynamic, because that’s what so many of you have written to us about, and it’s so powerful a cultural trope as to have spawned novels, movies, stereotypes, and clichés.
And the fact that adults and males have social/cultural/economic/etc.
Not every one of these situations is going to be a soap opera about forbidden love and sexual corruption; sometimes it really is just about two people who really like and respect each other.
It’s totally doable, as long as you keep some things (*cough* MY INSANELY WISE WORDS BELOW *cough*) in mind.
Consider how different you are now from how you were two years ago—huge, right? Just as awesome, but with a radically different perspective on what happened in middle school, you know?
That idea also applies to the years between you and an older paramour.Consider the age difference—how old are you and how old are they?When I first started getting involved with older men, I was all “age ain’t nothin’ but a number.” But that is actually not the case, and the fact that I know that now but didn’t then proves my point.It doesn’t mean you have “daddy issues” or whatever; that phrase doesn’t actually mean anything, because it can be applied (or, preferably, not) to every person on the planet.Being attracted to someone older just means you are a human person who sometimes thinks other human people are sexy!And so this article is gonna focus on the not-so-fun stuff—the things I didn’t know or understand back then, and that maybe you don’t now.