And if you have one yourself, what are your thoughts about all this?
As a person living with chronic illness, I was intrigued to read a post on dating with fibromyalgia.
Apologies if this sounds like a rather wordy rant — that was not my intention.
I’m sure we all know individuals who were perfectly healthy when they got married but developed medical problems later in life.
Conversely, there are many people who were living with medical conditions when they married, but have had a normal family life and healthy children.
I can totally relate to this post and how in the beginning of a relationship people may see us differently than who we really are.
And let's face it, we want to be that person they think they see. I have always been concerned that there will never be anyone that is strong enough for it.
First of all, where was the consideration of the young woman’s feelings in all of this?
I appreciate that it is difficult for a “healthy/normal” person to understand what it is like to live with a chronic illness — I had very little concept of the difficulties before I developed health problems.I would also not wish to discourage anyone from asking questions like this (no matter how shallow they may appear), as I appreciate personally how important it is to have a website like this, where such questions are answered anonymously and with careful consideration of God’s Word.While I do not dispute the advice that was given per se, I do feel that there were some extremely important factors that were not considered.She is probably a little nervous of what the future may hold — even though she is single, she has probably thought about the effect of pregnancy on her diabetes (and vice versa), and worried about developing complications in later life.She may even be concerned about passing on the condition to any children she may have.In many ways we truly are that person, but chronic illness steals are ability to stay that person. Here is an excerpt from Dating with Fibromyalgia... Sometimes I have had pity parties because I feel damaged to a degree, I can’t help this feeling. I sometimes feel that I am bringing nothing to the table but brokenness but I know this much, my spirit isn’t broken and neither is my heart, Fibro has never stopped me from loving unconditionally.