The men in my life keep on surprising and challenging me, and I like to keep it that way." Creating a profile And just in case she gets pigeonholed as a jock looking for her iron man, she throws in a piece of prose to hopefully capture a few creative souls."I hope to make you laugh, to inspire you to be more courageous and adventurous, to live life fearlessly and freely and to never stop asking why? And in return I hope you do the same for me." On any given day surfyogi could have been "culture vulture" or "creative guru".
' I have to confess, I absolutely love my life. " It's not often you get to quote your online dating profile's personal "narrative".
And why wouldn't I I live in this beautiful city where I get to go for morning walks on the mountain, surf in Muizenberg (when the Cape Doctor isn't making house calls) or just relax in some postcard- perfect spot and read. That's the part where you get 20 to 2 000 words to "sell" yourself, or at least the SABS-approved version you want to put forward.
She quickly learned that there is more science to cracking this system than people think. Smart profiles use the photo opportunity to show they have fun-loving friends (so not a loser); that they love the great outdoors (cue man carrying a heavy stand-up paddle board into water) and anything that allows you to pick up a heavy item or show your gym biceps is also a winner.
If one picture can do all three and show your sensitive side, you are either all of these things or a psych major.
"The way I see it, Cape Town is a blessing and a curse because you don't need anyone to make you feel alive, happy or fulfilled. It really is an exercise in sales, where miscalculating your value or the market's interest could cost you in receding hairlines and awkward dates.
In my case my avatar was "surfyogi", the adventurous free spirit who is "already in love with life but open to new possibilities". Well travelled and adventurous, surfyogi is a thirtysomething girl who knows what she wants – "I like a passionate, adventurous man who has a great sense of humour" – but keeps herself open to new possibilities – "I am not sure I have an ideal man.
In hindsight, surfyogi might have thrown in a few more "sensitive" photos, pictures of her playing games with cute children or engaging with animals and nature, all firm favourites on the online dating circuit.
Of course, creating the persona and making a checklist of the ideal man was the fun part.
As Burstein explains: "We have developed a unique algorithm that determines matches based on profile details and desired match.
This is combined with weighting factors for each key parameter." This is not outcomes-based dating.
It's hard choosing just one angle for your entire life story. The best profile photographs always cover the basics – sexy, sporty and slightly mysterious.