Knowing what to look for can help you to better maintain a relationship with someone with BPD.
According to Those phases are anecdotal in nature, but give a picture of what going through a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder might be like.
This is a common defense mechanism called I am totally confused.
My BP boyfriend broke up with me on Tuesday, then on Friday wanted to know what I was doing over the weekend.
In turn, they distance themselves to avoid feeling controlled. So they try to get closer again, and the cycle repeats. The “Testing” Fight Before I recovered from BPD I would tell people, “I’m just testing you to see how much you love me.” I knew that I couldn’t start with a full-blown BP rage. With each test I set forth and the person passed, I upped the ante and said, “If you loved me, you would do this or that.” People usually accepted the most outrageous and inappropriate behavior to maintain the relationship.
You might think that once the non-BP passes the tests, their borderline family member would feel more secure. Instead, people with BPD think, “Why would a healthy, normal person take the abuse?
It is not exclusive to BPD, but a component of several impulse control disorders such as intermittent explosive disorder.
Whether the border-lion is turned inward or outward, it is one of the top barriers keeping BPs and those who love them from developing the close, trusting relationship each partner yearns for.
In addition to the kind of intelligence you can measure on an IQ test, there’s emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is about monitoring emotions—both your own and those of the people around you—and then using this knowledge to guide your thinking and actions.
I remember one night, we had a great time together and had great sex.